Who I Am andWhere I’m Going
I’ve had countless role models in my life. Most of which have taught me that the more organized and prepared I am the more I will achieve and accomplish in academics, athletics, and relationships. These achievements, they tell me, will lead to a financially comfortable, responsible, happy life. I have to give these role models credit. They taught me a lot. Because of them I’m driven and educated. I’ve become a very competitive athlete and learned to commit completely to everything I do. I’m responsible and what most would call well-rounded. It wasn’t until recently that I met two people who inspired me in a polar opposite way. Contradicting everything I’ve been taught about structure, organization, and accomplishments, Conor Shaw and Karl Cremin taught me to slow down and enjoy what I’m doing, while I’m doing it.
We met three summers ago at Dukes, a small grill a five minute bike ride from my house. My best friend Mckay and I were waiting for our food to come up when two boys with accents sat down at the table next to us. We soon discovered their names were Conor Shaw and Karl Cremin and they were visiting Ventura on holiday from Ireland. We became automatic friends, spending everyday of that first summer together. They decided to return the second summer and rented a small studio apartment down the street from our houses. This past summer they moved into Mckay’s garage, down the street from my house. The four of us became inseparable. We talked about everything and I know more about them then I do about some friends I’ve had for my entire life. Over these three summers the biys have taught me more about the kind of person I wanted to be than I have learned throughout my entire life.
Conor Shaw is unlike anyone I’ve ever met. He’s completely carefree, comfortable with who he is, and convinced living simply is the only way to live. He’s been through so many traumatic experience and he’s remains one of the best people I know. This past January his twelve year old brother Michael passed away in his sleep. Michael had always experienced random seizures and the doctors couldn’t diagnose his problem. They prescribed him medication that generally kept the seizures under control but, one morning after experiencing an intense seizure, Michael didn’t wake up. Conor also lost his younger brother Rob when Rob was born due to heart failure. Conor, being the oldest of seven children in his family, was the rock. After both losses he kept the rest of his families’ spirit and faith up. Throughout the summer we’ve had countless talks about how these experiences affected him. And it always comes back to the same idea. Conor believes that everything affects you how you let it affect you. If you always look on the bright side, even though sometimes it will seem impossible to do, it makes those awful situations bearable. He also taught me that if you live simply and only stay committed to what is really important to you life will be much happier. David Thoreau had the same idea in his essay “Where I Lived and What I’ve Lived For.” Thoreau wrote, “Every morning was a cheerful invitation to make my life of equal simplicity, and I may say innocence, with Nature herself… I got up early and bathed in the pond; that was a religious exercise, and one of the best things which I did.” This quote explains Conor and Thoreau’s idea that living simply will make you much happier. Thoreau argues that making everyday day tasks, like bathing, one of the most important tasks of your day as well as a “religious exercise”, bigger tasks will seem less stressful. Conor Shaw is a prime example of this way of life. He focuses all of his attention on small everyday tasks and brings out the fun in them. His enthusiasm and optimism is contagious and I’ve seen in spread through everyone we know. Because of his influence I have grown not only as a person but also as a friend. I’ve learned to look for the best out of every situation and focus on that instead of the negative.
Karl Cremin has taught me a lot over the past three years as well. He’s incredibly intelligent and determined to experience as many different things as possible. He’s convinced me of the importance of traveling and seeing as much of the world as I can. Karl never wants to stay in the same place for too long and is very careful about keeping few commitments so he’s capable of leaving whenever he wants. David Thoreau brought up the same idea in his essay, “Where I’ve Been and Where I’m Going.” Thoreau wrote, “But I would say to my fellows, once for all, As long as possible live free and uncommitted. It makes but little difference whether you are committed to a farm or the county jail.” This quote explains Karl and Thoreau’s dedication to living a simple, carefree life where they can roam and experience everything possible. After countless conversations with Karl about the type of traveling lifestyle he lives I’m convinced he’s right. He’s inspired me to get out of the country and meet as many people and experience as many things as possible why I’m still free enough to do it. By doing this I will become more well-rounded and exposed to different cultures and types of people. He’s also taught me that by keeping my options open by staying committed to as little as possible I can make decisions based on what I want to do instead of what I have to do. Karl taught me that as long as you’re not hurting anyone else it is important to do what I want will make me happy. He says the real trick is when you can make others happy by doing what you really want to do. This is advice I apply to every part of my life. I’ve found jobs that I love doing that make others happy. By only making commitments to things you’re enthusiastic and excited about you will perform at your best because you’ll want to do well for yourself.
Over the past three years the boys have only been in the country accumulatively ten months but they’ve established an entire life here. They have a home , jobs, and a new circle of friends. The second summer they lived in Ventura was the first the trip became for of a lifestyle instead of a holiday. They got hired at Dargans, a popular Irish pub in downtown Ventura, and worked up to thirty hours a week. Because of this job they made enough money to pay off most of their flights as well as funding different trips. This summer was the first time we made a lot of low budget trips up and down the coast of California. We made it up to San Francisco, cramming nine people into a forty dollar per night hotel. We drove down to San Diego for five days and slept in the car. In every trip we made we got very comfortable where we were staying. Having no commitments and spending the days exploring through a different city with my best friends was the highlight of my summer. We became fimilar with the different cities and made local friends. It got to the point where it felt like we had a bunch of different homes up and down the coast of California. Thoreau explains this idea in his essay, “Where I’ve Lived and What I’ve Lived For.” He writes, “What is a house but a sedes, a seat?” This quote shows that home is where you make it. As long as you have the necessities to survive anywhere you live can be a home. Thoreau believes that the world is your home and you need to live and experience all of it, not stay committed to one place. He also believes that people can’t claim land as theirs, because it belongs to everyone and everything. Conor and Karl taught me this same idea over the past three years. As long as you have the right optimistic attitude and enthusiasm you can make anywhere a home.
These past three summers have been monumental stepping stones that have helped me see who I am and who I want to become. Conor and Karl have inspired me to relax and enjoy my life now, not focus on only succeeding in the future. Due to their constant insistence, I’m leaving Christmas Day to spend three weeks in Ireland to see their other homes. This summer we’re planning on all moving to New Zealand for four months and starting a new home there. These boys have helped me to see that I want to experience everything I can.